• Ashley Anne

Is Technology having an impact on relationships?

Are you missing out on quality time with your partner because you're too busy scrolling through social media or checking emails?

The average American spends 5 hours a day looking at their phone and this doesn't include the amount of time that they spend on laptops or watching television. While technology has made our lives easier, it is also having an impact on relationships. We are spending more time on our mobile devices than we are with our significant other. This blog post will discuss why this is happening and what you can do about it in order to maintain a healthy relationship.

It is not uncommon to see couples sharing their gadgets when they are together. Whether it is an iPad or a smartphone, the idea of being able to pass time with your loved one while you are on the road or just spending some quality time together at home can be quite appealing. However, this may lead to arguments and misunderstandings in a relationship because each partner has different preferences for how gadget use should be handled. In this post we examine if there is any truth to these claims and whether couples should let go of their devices more often when they are with each other.

As the years pass by, mankind finds themselves also increasingly more dependent on these little handy devices that make our lives a lot easier. But is this really the case? As our lives get easier, are we not making our very essence of being human more difficult? Humans are social creatures and while our gadgets allow us to connect to more people, the space we navigate is merely virtual.

How Technology - Technoference can hurt your partner

According to research by psychologist Sarah Coyne, PhD and Brandon McDaniel, a psychology graduate student at Penn State University, "About 70 percent of the women committed in a relationship they surveyed said that technology interfered in their relationship with their partner at least sometimes or often, and about a quarter said their partners actively texted others during the couple's face-to-face conversations. Moreover, women who reported more technoference in their couple relationship also reported more conflict over technology use, lower relationship satisfaction, more depressive symptoms and lower life satisfaction.

"Many of these interruptions are likely unintentional or unconsciously done, but can still send a message that the technology device is more important in that moment than one's romantic partner," McDaniel says. "If this happens frequently, the relationship can really suffer." "- apa.org

The use of gadgets has increased in recent times and their usage is becoming more habitual among people. These devices are even being used while spending time with friends and family members which leaves very less time for them to spend together. As a result, there is no communication between them and this might affect their relationship in the future.

Let's take “Technoference” for example. It is a term coined by assistant professor Brandon McDaniel of Illinois University. It refers to how technology interferes with our daily lives as social beings. Now, the usual instances when people gather together to bond but end up facing their mobile phones and other gadgets exhibit strong occurrences of "technoference". Alarmingly, gone is our chance to be actually present at the moment as that notification screams for our attention. As everyone starts to be virtually involved, our engagement with each other sans gadgets is set aside. It is as if virtual relationships can ever substitute our need for something real.

Media may be rich in its potential for interactions, but it is poor in its ability to transmit real-time emotions. Think about how one message left on reading may mean in comparison to a person who stays silent after you finish talking. Which is easier to misunderstand?

Addiction to Technology is Ruining Lives - Simon Sinek

Technology is everywhere, and it’s not going away, nor should it. We just have to learn to live with it in a more civilized and ethical way in the presence of others around us, both at home with our family members or in public when our use of mobiles is susceptible to interfere with people that can't go away or distance themselves from you, like in a restaurant, an elevator, in-line in a store. Don't do to others what you wouldn't want others to do in front of you.

The Solution

You can try using these tips to get rid of any bad habit that you may have developed due to gadget addiction and bring back the love in your life!

We just need to start interacting face-to-face! It seems as if our gadgets hold all the riches in the world, but it is nothing compared to a priceless genuine interaction with our kin. Dr. Lickerman of Psychology Today advises us to exercise our good judgment upon the use of technology. A healthy habit of ditching your gadgets so as not to ditch your physical companions is the way to go.

Let us all Refresh the Basic Rules of Good Manners:

  • Respect other's privacy

  • Never place on a dining table any object that has nothing to do with food

  • Never Text at the table, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom

  • Learn how to let go of your mobile, it is one of many source of stress

  • When placing your mobile on loudspeakers, tell people they're on speakerphone

  • During a conversation, do not keep starring at your mobile to check emails

  • Put your phone on mute and use emails or SMS if cannot walk away from others

  • Turn off your phone during any meeting, respect the speaker

Avoid to drag your phone into the bedroom when you go to sleep; put your phone away during dinner; turn off notifications from apps like Facebook and Instagram so that you can focus more attention onto what's going on around you instead of what's happening online; try not to check your email while sitting across from someone else unless it is absolutely necessary; and if all else fails, consider turning off the notifications from those apps in your settings. Common courtesy goes a long way and is so much sexier!